Bullshit is everywhere.
It stinks up politics, news, TV, school, religion, and of course, many self-help books.
Self-help gets a bad rap, because although many books offer great advice, many more offer hefty scoops of bullshit, so how’s one supposed to separate the great stuff from the nonsense?
Easy. Have someone else do it for you.
I may be overly ambitious, but I believe I can summarize every single self-help/success book ever written, minus all the bullshit. Not only that, but I believe I can do it in under two minutes.
Don’t start the timer just yet!
First, a brief explanation:
I’ve read A LOT of self-help books. Dozens? Hundreds? It doesn’t matter. It’s an embarrassing amount. But, my embarrassment is your gain, because I’ve rolled up my sleeves and sifted through mountains of bullshit to find us a few gold nuggets. I’ve polished them up, and now I’m going to narrow thousands of hours of reading into just seven steps.
You may be asking yourself, “Who does this guy think he is? Does he seriously think he can summarize all the greats… Napoleon Hill, Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, Dale Carnegie, etc… hundreds of books… millions of pages… in just two minutes? Without any bullshit?”
Yes. Yes I can. Here’s how (but don’t start the clock yet):
Every self-help book is 10% advice, and 90% persuasion. The author tells you WHAT to do 10% of the time, and the other 90% of the time they explain WHY you should listen to them. That’s not a criticism; that makes perfect sense. Human beings are lazy and stubborn by nature. We first need to be convinced by the author(s), and then we need to be aggressively persuaded into action.
This is usually accomplished by manipulating our emotions. I’m not going to do that, because you’re all smart people. You can persuade yourself into action whenever you’re ready.
My goal with this article is to take the 10% of truth contained in every self-improvement book and pack it into its densest diamond form. No emotional bullshit; just logic. And logic, by definition, is the attempt to remove bullshit from any situation.
Quick example — everyone knows how to get in better shape: “Eat healthier. Exercise more.” A simple truth, stated simply.
Every diet/exercise program — Atkins, paleo, P90X, CrossFit, etc. — is simply a system (more on that word later) designed so you don’t screw up that simple, no BS formula: “Eat healthier. Exercise more.”
“Success” or “Self-Help” is an area that’s far less intuitive — and far more difficult to define — than physical fitness. That’s why I want to uncover the “eat healthier, exercise more” formula for self-help. If you know the basic formula, you can create your own system.
I understand a lot of people (myself included) are skeptical about self-help books because they believe the advice only brings “success” to a few ego-driven authors.
That’s why I’m not selling anything. This isn’t about vanity or social notoriety. This isn’t about money. This is about being honest and helpful to as many people as I can.
Okay, before we start the clock, one last note:
Whether you call it self-help, self-improvement, or success, it’s all about deciding what you want, then making it happen. Whatever you want to improve in your life — money, health, happiness, relationships — these are the practical ways to do it.
Here the seven truths stated in every good self-help book.
Ready? Alright. Let’s go!
Self-Help in Two Minutes. Start the clock!
1) If you CONTROL YOUR MIND, you CONTROL YOUR LIFE.
This is the foundation of every success theory ever written. It’s the “eat healthier; exercise more” of self-help. It’s also where most people fail, because the mind is a fickle, petulant child that hates discipline. To clarify, “control your mind” means…
2) FOCUS YOUR THOUGHTS in order to CONTROL YOUR ACTIONS.
If you only THINK, but never DO, you accomplish nothing. Thoughts that aren’t actionable are bullshit. Let them pass. Focus on thoughts that compel you to act. Don’t wish for your goals. PURSUE them!
3) Controlling your mind takes PRACTICE EVERYDAY.
You are not your mind; you are the willpower behind your mind. However you do it — affirmations, meditation, journaling, etc. — you must improve, little by little, until you REPROGRAM YOUR MIND to focus on optimism and action.
4) Goals are useless unless you create SUCCESSFUL DAILY HABITS to achieve them.
You can control your habits as long as you HAVE A SYSTEM. Losing 10 pounds is a goal; eating under 1,200 calories a day is a system. First, DEFINE WHAT YOU WANT, then create a PLAN and stick to it daily. Your habits will determine your success, so it’s crucial to create ones that move you in the direction of your goal.
5) Results TAKE TIME.
Change rarely happens right away, and momentum builds slowly. DON’T GIVE UP. If you do what you need to do everyday, you’ll be shocked by how much you’ve accomplished by the end of the year.
6) BLAME NOTHING.
You are the only person responsible for your life. Life deals everyone a different hand — it’s called random fucking chance. You can’t control adversity, but you can control your reaction to it. Helen Keller was deaf and blind and still wrote an autobiography! Do the work. NO EXCUSES!
7) DON’T BE AN ASSHOLE.
There’s enough negativity in the world; don’t contribute to it. If you’re able, BE KIND, but if you’re having a rough day, just try not to be a complete dick.
I should’ve ended on a more eloquent note than “try not to be a complete dick,” but there you have it. Hundreds of books summed up in two minutes.
If you’re a hardass who argues that reading the above list took more than two minutes, allow me to condense it into the 20-second version:
- Control your mind. Control your Life.
- Focus your thoughts. Control your actions.
- Practice everyday. Reprogram your mind.
- Successful daily habits. Have a system. Define what you want. Plan.
- Take time. Don’t give up.
- Blame nothing. No excuses.
- Don’t be an asshole. Be kind.
I review the above list every day as a constant reminder to stay focused whenever I find myself drifting.
I could have gone into more detail (techniques, strategies, etc.), but that’s where things can turn into bullshit if you’re not careful. I tried to keep things as short and simple as possible (“Eat healthier. Exercise more.”). When you know the basics, you can plan your own strategy to make it happen.
A Few Notes:
To clarify, I’m not claiming that I know more than any self-help authors. I’m just trying to funnel all their teachings into a formula simple enough to fit on a Post-it note.
I may have seemed overly critical of self-help books, but the truth is I’ve found them immensely helpful in my life. But take my advice — don’t read as many books on the subject as I have! Eventually I realized I was reading them as a way of putting off actually taking action.
Having said that, it’d be silly if I didn’t recommend a few books on the subject. Here are three of my favorite success/self-help books that, in my opinion, haven’t gotten as much mainstream attention as they deserve:
This is one of the most bullshit-free success books I’ve ever read. Scott Adams (creator of Dilbert) is completely transparent, outlining his many failures while providing a shockingly honest account of how he grew and cultivated his own success. Very different in style and tone than most self-development books, and I mean that in the best possible way. Read it twice! (Author’s Note: I used many of Adams’ “Tips to Become a Better Writer” in this article.)
2) The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson
This book persuaded me into action more than any other. No goofy, magical nonsense in here. Just simple truths, stated simply. Perfectly practical advice that makes so much sense, you’ll be astounded that it isn’t taught in every school. If you truly want to inspire yourself to improve your life, start here. I love this book so much that it inspired one of my favorite articles!
3) The Laws of Success by Napoleon Hill
Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich is considered the Bible of success by many experts (and should definitely be read), but fewer people have read this longer, more in-depth study on the qualities one needs to develop in order to become successful. Even though it was written in 1929, it’s shocking how appropriate his advice is today.